Majalahnabawi.com-The grave pilgrimage has almost become an annual plan for several women in remote villages of this country. Even though it’s a long journey and takes days, it doesn’t dampen their hearts. Her husband was willing to be left behind while the children were ready to be brought along to enliven the religious celebration.
From that phenomenon, it is interesting to study the hadith of Abu Hurairah’s narration. Who said that Prophet Muhammad SAW cursed the women who visited the grave.
Some Hadith about Grave Pilgrimage for Women
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى الله عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ لَعَنَ زَوَّارَاتِ القُبُ
The hadith narrated by imam Ahmad, imam Ibnu Majah, imam al-Tirmidhi, and imam Ibnu Hibban, assessed as Hasan Sahih by imam al-Tirmidhi is in line with the narrations of imam al-Nasa’i, imam Abu Daud from the path of Ibnu Abbas.
عن عبد الله بن عباس «أنَّ رسولَ الله صلى الله عليه وسلم لَعَنَ زائرات القبور
At first glance, the hadith forbids women to visit the grave. However, other hadiths suggest otherwise. Among them:
عَنْ أَنَسِ بْنِ مَالِكٍ ، قَالَ : قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : نَهَيْتُكُمْ عَنْ زِيَارَةِ الْقُبُورِ فَزُورُوهَا ، فَإِنَّهَا تُذَكِّرُكُمُ الْمَوْتُ
From Anas bin, Malik said: Rasulullah SAW. said: I once forbade you to make a pilgrimage of the grave, so now make a pilgrimage, because he can remind you of death.
The hadith narrated by Imam Ahmad and Al-Hakim indicates the ability of the grave pilgrimage for both men and women. Likewise, the long pieces of long hadith narrated by Imam Muslim, Imam An-Nasa’i, and Imam Ahmad illustrate the Prophet, Muhammad. He was leaning the grave pilgrimage for Aisyah RA. He even taught the procedure for praying when entering the burial area.
Rasulullah Saw doesn’t Deny The arrival of a Woman
فقال إن ربك يأمرك أن تأتي أهل البقيع فتستغفر لهم قالت قلت كيف أقول لهم يا رسول الله قال قولي السلام على أهل الديار من المؤمنين والمسلمين ويرحم الله المستقدمين منا والمستأخرين وإنا إن شاء الله بكم للاحقون
In addition, there is a hadith in Sahih al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim narrated by the Companions of Anas bin Malik where Rasulullah saw. doesn’t deny the arrival of a woman at a funeral. Still, he only admonished him not to be sad, as illustrated in the following hadith.
عَنْ أَنَسِ بْنِ مَالِكٍ قَالَ: مَرَّ رَسُولُ الله صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ بِامْرَأَةٍ عِنْدَ قَبْرٍ وَهِيَ تَبْكِي، فَقَالَ لَهَا: «اتَّقِي الله وَاصْبِرِي» فَقَالَتْ: إِلَيْكَ عَنِّي فَإِنَّكَ لَمْ تُصَبْ بِمُصِيبَتِي، وَلَمْ تَعْرِفْهُ، فَقِيلَ لَهَا، فَأَخَذَهَا مِثْلُ الْمَوْتِ، فَأَتَتْ بَابَ رَسُولِ الله صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، فَلَمْ تَجِدْ عِنْدَهُ بَوَّابِينَ فَقَالَتْ: يَا رَسُولَ الله إِنِّي لَا أَعْرِفُكَ، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ الله صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «إِنَّ الصَّبْرَ عِنْدَ أَوَّلِ الصَّدْمَةِ»
Rasulullah (saw) one day passed a woman who was weeping beside a grave, and the Prophet (saw) advised her: “Have faith in Allah and be patient.” “Leave me alone. You are not afflicted with misfortune like me,” replied the woman. He did not know that it was the Prophet who advised him. Then he was reprimanded if the one who spoke to him was the Prophet. A moment later, she was like death. The woman went to the house of the Prophet Muhammad to apologize. “O Messenger of Allah, I did not know that it was you who advised me, ” the woman regretfully. “Indeed, patience is when disaster strikes for the first time.” Rasulullah saw replied.
Likewise, Imam al-Hakim narrated a hadith, which states that Fatima is the daughter of the Prophet Muhammad. Also, every Friday, visit the tomb of the Prophet’s uncle. Hamzah to pray for him, and he wept beside his grave.
How Do We Understand the Opposite Hadith
Looking at the above hadiths as if they contradict each other, on the one hand, there is a hadith that mentions the prohibition of women visiting the grave. On the one hand, many traditions indicate it is permissible for women to visit the grave. And both have the same quality status as authentic. However, the contradictions of these traditions can still be compromised (al-jam’u) so that both the two hadiths can be practiced. How to practice it?
The hadith that prohibits the pilgrimage of the grave for women uses the editorial زوارات القبور with a shighat mubalaghah. So Imam al-Qurtubi said that the curse of Rasulullah saw was explicitly aimed at women who often make pilgrimages to the grave. Until they forget their obligations as wive and ignore the rights of their husbands, or they make a pilgrimage to dress up so that it causes slander, or when they visit their graves, they cry out hysterically.
And if the woman is safe from the things mentioned, then it is permissible for her to visit the grave because remembering death is necessary not only for men but women also need it. At this time, the traditions that allowed the pilgrimage to the tomb for women were practiced.